Years ago, when I first began to actively research Witchcraft, rather than relying entirely on intuition and common sense (which still both serve me well and I highly advise every Witch to consult,) I came across this statement, made in passing, that continues to influence my mindset and that I continue to find validation for:
“A Witch’s word must be as good as a signed contract.”
At first glance, it seems to be nothing more than some pseudo-Christian value, carried over into the New Age movement, that somehow got attached to the label of Witchcraft, but, hear me out: there is strong justification for this when it comes to your magick.
Here’s an example: say you made arrangements to meet a friend at 3pm, but you don’t show up until 3:30. She doesn’t mind, understands why you were late, after all you’re always late, and the two of you get on with your plans. No big deal, right? How could it possibly have any effect on your spellcrafting?
We continue with our example: so, some time has passed now, you’re in the middle of a prosperity spell, maybe rent is coming due but you can’t get the hours at work so this is truly a valid need. You light the candles, say the words, release the energy, and carry on with your life. And nothing happens. Not even a flicker. You sent out your request and the Universe sends it back to you, postage due.
The reasons for this are simple, it consistently not adhering to your word, not keeping your promises, you make it loud and clear to the Universe that you don’t actually mean what you say. You’ve created a pattern of energy that when you say one thing, something else happens. So when you cast that Circle and proclaim that you have the money to pay rent, the Universe/your Gods/etc. look back to these prior incidences (made manifest through this pattern of energy) and see that because you say that you have the money, the only possible outcome now is that you will not have the money.
Hate my example if you will, but the point remains: you are defined by your actions and words and magick and the mundane are not separate. Everything is connected, if it wasn’t your magick wouldn’t work in the first place. As such, there is no distinction made between you amongst your friends and you in front of a candle lit altar: you are the same person regardless. And consequences for actions taken under one “role” may easily bleed over into other areas of your life.
Walk your talk.